Iron Knee

I saw a liberal feminist priest post--sorry, like and/or share--a meme on Facebook that said we can let the events that wrong us harden us, or we can become softer (kinder).  I'm paraphrasing, but it is apparently a quote from the Dali Lama.  So, my first thought was, "That's ironic!"  I, like so many, do not see the irony of these kind of posts when I post them.  They cut both ways.  Don't let things harden you?  From an ardent outspoken feminist no less!